Expressive power: Don’t lose your ability to speak (illustrated by hand)
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3 pieces. Everyday life = continuity of expression
Don’t talk when you have nothing to say, and focus when you have something to say
4 pieces. Strong expression and weak expression
The strength of language expression does not depend on how much you say, but how much the other side can understand
◆ How to express yourself properly
Expressive people choose appropriate expressions according to the subject content, the other party’s role, the other party’s reaction and other factors, so that the listener can understand the meaning of the discourse in a short time.
Pieces of 1. Expressions that make the other person feel good
An unliked expression says what it wants to say, while a liked expression says it for the other person.
People are always interested in themselves.
2 pieces. Being bad at expression is just laziness
If you are thinking lazy words, will make their own ideas less and less, gradually become conformity, lack of creativity.
If you don’t think before you speak, your ability to express yourself will naturally be poor. Learn to think about what you are going to say before you say it, and think about how you are going to organize it — how you are going to start, twist, end, etc.
Typing is a good habit of expression, if you are used to expressing without thinking, in the long run, no matter how much you say, you can not improve your expression. Before opening the mouth to express things in mind over, do know, in order to express more accurate.
3 pieces. Use objects to show your enthusiasm
In expressing your passion, don’t rely on subjective factors. Use objective facts as your basis.
4 pieces. How to Praise them
We should learn to be mindful and observe what the other person wants to be praised for first, and then go to praise.
6 pieces. How do you express yourself when asking for help
The first thing to do when asking for a date is to be specific and not leave the other person feeling confused. We can cut to the chase and get to the point. Everyone’s time is very precious, speak, express to pay attention to efficiency. Especially when we ask for help or make an appointment, we should think for each other and not say too much about irrelevant things and make each other confused.
7 pieces. Break the awkward little joke
To break the ice with words, you need to strengthen your aura. This means putting yourself in an environment where it’s easiest for you to express yourself, so that you can confidently focus on improving the relationship and not be so concerned with speaking while you’re thinking. Don’t be embarrassed to make the first move. Instead, take the lead in solving the interpersonal problem, and you should be confident. Use your aura and you’ll get better results.
Pieces of 1. Practice the subject
For a conversation with a clear theme in advance, pay attention to the process of expression and remind yourself of what the theme is from time to time. It is often not easy to get off topic, or to “stop the car” in time when just going off topic. As for those conversations that have no theme in advance, we can try to extract the theme of our speech and make it clear and specific, so that we can have a “backbone” to express ourselves and avoid wordy and messy situations.
3 pieces. Don’t give out all your information
. Don’t just follow your own ideas. Consider whether the other person is interested in what you are saying, their position, and how well your ideas will be accepted.
4 pieces. Skip the long opening monologue
“I don’t want you to think that what I’m saying here is rare, but you’re not aware of it…” Sometimes, before speaking, people are afraid that others will disagree with them, so they will try to be sarcastic or polite. These are all exculpatory language, which is unnecessary.
Pieces of 1. There are three main points to notice
There are three key points that can be divided into different situations. One is the parallel structure, that is, the three points are parallel to each other.
2 pieces. Break things down into small chunks
Breaking things down into small chunks means layering your presentation and taking into account all aspects of the story
6 pieces. Give examples and then summarize briefly
Concise summaries can be used to unify different ideas to the original intention of the expresser.
◆ How to organize the content of the expression
Generally speaking, time, place, people, events, the most basic elements of a thing are absolutely necessary information. The sources, opinions, etc., can be taken as better information when it’s said.
2 pieces. Apologize to the listener
It’s not easy to listen unilaterally, and pausing from time to time to give the listener a chance to ask questions will make communication more effective.
4 pieces. Anticipate listener questions
In the process of expression, if the other party raises questions and doubts, first do not rush to remedy and explain, think about whether it is in the range of their own prediction, or what is the same point. Eliminate the parts you both agree on, find the differences, and then explain and communicate.
5 pieces. Leave room for questions
Too much is too bad. Too much can lead to boredom or confusion. Leaving room for questions works best.
The purpose of expression is not just to make the other person understand, but to make him move in the direction you want him to move. If the other person is not impressed by you, he or she will not act and will only stay at the level of understanding. Therefore, to deliberately leave room for the listener to ask questions, the process of asking questions can let both sides work together.
◆ How do you stay true to the topic
In expression, don’t speak for the sake of speaking, speak slowly rather than nonsense. Express while thinking, so that their thinking and mood are kept in a quiet state. Around the theme, use different methods to explain, you can cite the classics, you can also use small stories interspersed, but always change is the same, should be closely related to the theme.
Pieces of 1. Don’t write down your expression line by line
Expression is a matter of interaction between preparation and improvisation. If you speak according to the prepared content blindly, on the one hand, you will be stuttered because you are trying to remember what you want to say. On the other hand, because you are so obsessed with what you have prepared for, you are so overwhelmed by what is happening on the spot that you have no energy to think and respond. At this rate, it is difficult to interact well with the listener, let alone reach a consensus.
Before you say it, make a clear idea of the main idea, structure your presentation, and then make a list of the main points of everything you want to say and find the logical connections between them to deepen your impression. If you feel uneasy about not writing it down, you can write down a few of the most important key words, so that you can categorize your argument, your evidence, and remember them easily.
Only by putting yourself in an environment where you need to think and speak at the same time, can you promote yourself to pay more attention to the internal logic of expression, so that your expression ability can reach a new height.
2 pieces. Look for opportunities to strike up a conversation
It is often because the speaker and the listener are not familiar with each other, or they do not know each other well enough. This situation will improve with time and further interaction. Another reason is that we don’t find the right moment to pick up the conversation.
Don’t whine or speak ill of others
Don’t express your subjective opinion too much
3 pieces. Give your reasons
The essence of explaining your reasons to the other side is to find a balance between the two sides, to defuse the coming conflict in the bud, or to find a consensus for an already emerging argument.
6 pieces. The contrast is easier to understand
Blindly explaining will confuse people, but using contrast, analogy and other ways to let people understand the differences from the differences, it is impressive.
7 pieces. The right examples make the presentation efficient
Argument is a combination of argument and refutation, in which example is sometimes more effective than logic.
In the final analysis, the improvement of expression ability is the cultivation of thinking. Analogical thinking mainly relies on imitation and innovation to increase knowledge reserve and draw inferences from one another in practice.
◆ How to use the four types of thinking
Active + Emotional = Lively: This type is enthusiastic, positive, and optimistic. Passive + Rational = Perfect: This type is calm, calm, and melancholy. Initiative + Reason = Power type: This type of person is sunny, energetic and confident. Passive + Emotional = Pacifist: This type of person is peaceful, gentle and calm.
Communicate with lively type person, expression can join certain action and gesture, do not appear inflexible stiff. At the same time, pay attention to guide each other from the micro point of view, because this type of people do not pay much attention to details, so if you reach an oral agreement, it is best to confirm it again after expression. When communicating with perfect people, you should pay attention to details, stick to deadlines, and get to the point of the expression as soon as possible. When expressing, be as serious as the other party, and use more technical terms and jargon as appropriate, because this type of person enjoys the rigorous atmosphere of academic discussion, and can also cite more specific examples. In writing, you can use diagrams to illustrate. To communicate with a powerful person, you need to use accurate words, respond decisively, speak loudly and speak faster. Power type people pay attention to efficiency and effect, so the expression must be direct and accurate, from the results of things to talk about, rather than too much emotional factors. Ask closed questions. This will make the other person feel efficient. When communicating with peaceful people, you need to pay attention to the atmosphere. Peaceful people are more interested in the good interaction of the relationship than in the outcome. When communicating with them, smile and be kind and use eye contact. Don’t speak too fast, don’t put pressure on others, be good at encouraging them, and constantly ask for their opinions.
2 pieces. Let each other know with a proverb.
In the life, want to be a man of heart, in both studying and working with people, met the right proverb is collected, can classify records, such as talking action class, weather proverbs, proverbs about friendship, about the team’s proverb, etc., on the occasion of the need to use can mobilize their own inventory. In this way, proverbs can be used to enrich their dialogue levels in the expression, add color to the communication, and make it easier for the other party to understand and identify.
3 pieces. Express acceptable reasons
Using your experience as an argument makes you feel like you’re there and gives you credibility.
4 pieces. How to express it intelligently
In the module expression, you can directly state your own views or stories to arouse the interest of listeners and carry out communication. You can also ask questions to elicit answers from the other party and give your own ideas for further discussion. In general, asking questions is the best way to start, throwing out open-ended questions that may lead to topics of mutual interest.
The end of the expression is to summarize, to sublimate the topic. Summarize the information and ideas in the whole presentation and confirm them to the other party. Or the other side of the opinion of moderate pull up, affirm its correctness. In short, being other-centered makes the other person feel understood and respected in the presentation.
In each module, you can add a question appropriately, which not only allows you to reflect on yourself, but also stimulates the enthusiasm and interest of the listener, so as to get more attention and affirmation.
5 pieces. Giving directions also shows your expressiveness
I am a young man, please tell me the front and back, don’t say southeast, northwest
For example, if you are an elderly person, you can use the direction of the north, south, east and west. Young people can use left and right, opposite, etc.
6 pieces. Quietly let your partner open up to you
In expression, we should do cadence. As the content of your speech changes, so should your voice. In the communication to let the other party open up, the low tone will ease the atmosphere, reduce the psychological pressure of the other party, the effect will be better.
Speak slowly and slowly to give the impression that everything you say comes from the heart and has been carefully thought out, that you are responsible for what you say and that you are a reliable person.
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