preface

I am very anxious, ask programmers, are you anxious?

I am a programmer over 35 years old and most of my friends are also programmers. I always get the feeling that programmers over 30 are full of anxiety. Incidents such as huawei’s dismissal of employees over the age of 35 and ZTE’s programmer falling off a building have intensified the anxiety of programmers.

Recently friends are complaining about their anxiety with me, I carefully listen to the discovery, their anxiety is incredibly bleak, separated, family!

Friend A’s anxiety: the future is uncertain

A is also A north drift programmer, recently with the daughter-in-law to discuss the development of home. A’s daughter-in-law and child have collective hukou in Beijing, but they can’t afford to buy an apartment in Beijing. Their child should go to kindergarten. There are too many applicants for public kindergartens, and they can’t get into the queue without an apartment. A was A little excited that day. His exact words were: “I can’t stay in Beijing without hukou, house and money. I must have all three.” How does the child go to school without a house? Can you go to school in Beijing? Go to school in Beijing return home college entrance examination, junior college does not take an examination of! With the cost of living in Beijing so high, can you afford no money? It is hard to earn enough money to support the family now. How can I maintain the present life when I can’t work in the future? Can you stay in Beijing forever? Sooner or later we have to go home! Can you still write code when you’re back home? How many Internet companies are there in your hometown? Could you make half as much as you do now? Finally, A sighed, “We programmers floating in Beijing have no future.”

Friend B’s anxiety: separated wife

Friend B mixed good, computer class graduate, now in a small company technical manager, monthly salary of 4W+. B’s daughter-in-law is a senior executive in a small company, whose salary is higher than his. She had a son two years ago. The couple are outsiders, in Shenzhen to buy A house, daughter-in-law opened an Audi A4 charge facade, A own domestic car. Daughter-in-law salary is high, the heart is also high, threatened to buy A house in Beijing, A’s salary is low, speak inevitably not emboldened. A is always worried about what to do after 40 when no one wants her or she can’t make more money. Although now with the daughter-in-law income gap is not big, but the daughter-in-law is still in the career, and their progress is weak. He is always afraid that if the income gap with his daughter-in-law is too big, his daughter-in-law does not look up to him, when the time comes to divorce, daughter-in-law to take away the child, he fell a wife and separated end. B said his relationship with his wife was good and his anxiety was unnecessary. Although he hid it well, I could see the worry in his heart.

Friend C’s anxiety: family ruin

C is also a programmer born after 1985. His wife is living in a third-tier city where his parents are farmers. I bought a house in 2015 when the housing price was at its peak. I had to pay off the 30-year loan, and my wife’s salary barely supported the family expenses. C suffered from lumbar disc herniation in the past two years, and had delayed treatment for a long time, so he always worried about his serious illness, because a serious illness would lead to a recovery period of one or two years or even longer. Recently, C worked too much overtime, feeling a little tired, he wanted to change his job and found that there was no overtime, so he had to endure it first. C worried that if he died suddenly one day, his wife’s salary would not be enough to pay the mortgage, the house would be taken back by the bank, and his parents would have to return to the countryside to farm. The wife and children left. In the end, the family will be destroyed.

What are we anxious about?

I’m anxious too, just like my friends, and I’ve asked people in other professions, and they’re anxious too. The reason for anxiety is not the industry we are in, but the stage of our lives. For those of us who have children, we have too many family responsibilities. We are living for our families. Everyone knows that income disparities wreak havoc on families. Everyone is anxious about how to make more money continuously.

This anxiety is even more pronounced among programmers, because programmers are paid more than other industries, and programmers are nothing but young people! If the impact is greater for programmers. Faced with older age and harder jobs, everyone is looking for a way out. For example, friend A wants to return to his hometown to open A franchise. Friend B is desperately learning artificial intelligence to catch up with the next wave of high income. Some friends choose to start a business and challenge the miracle of wealth. Of course, there are people like me who are anxious all day and don’t know what to do.

How do we find a way out?

In fact, as long as we can continue to earn more money, no income gap, there will be no such anxiety. For example, friend B learns artificial intelligence, which is a good way out. But if this is the same thing, you will face the same problem in a few years, and are you happy with your overtime life? The answer must be no. Here I recommend a Java architecture communication circle: 874811168 for people with Java development experience to help break the bottleneck and improve their thinking ability. Rational use of their every minute every second of time to learn to improve themselves, do not use “no time” to cover up their ideological laziness! Take advantage of now, hard to spell, to the future of their own account! My ideal life is:

1. Living a slow life on a good income.
2. No overtime, easy to get along with colleagues, work challenges, efforts to solve.
3. Have a little business. Leave it to the next generation.
4. There was a little house with a mistress, and they cooked and read together.
5. Parents around, not living together.
6. You don’t have to save long to buy things.
7. There’s a little crappy car that takes the whole family on a cruise.

. . A steady life, no great wealth, but also not embarrassed, to be a comfortable idle fish, breathing in the heart of freedom.

I’m heading down that road, aren’t you? Have you found your way? I wish everyone would take it easy. Life is not easy.