Why write an article about questions, because too tm important learn to question and communication and open public number at this time, there are a lot of partners in succession and I communication, combined with work in recent years, found a lot of questions can improve the situation, see question wrong way can make people don’t know how to answer, very helpless.
Mistake # 1: There?
Ask a in yao have no then, the more cattle of the person his time is less, ask to them to ask when consulting only in, at this time if answered 1: in! Then I must be busy with other things. After two hours, I finally have time to look at my mobile phone. At this time, if I say “I have been paying attention to you for a long time and ADMIRE you very much, and then there is no other content, I will definitely collapse directly.
Get straight to the question! Believe that everyone is very busy every day, are fragments of time will see mobile phone, if you see somebody else’s problem will reply directly, a short period of time will find a time to say I don’t understand or write an article to answer, and at that time also have more time to think about your questions, but if you don’t even know let alone to solve the problem.
It is common to hear senior engineers in companies say: What is the problem now? Because a lot of people often describe a lot of questions, from the background of the problem to their own has been studied for several days, how to study these days, but do not describe the problem, to someone else urgent, can see the lofty expression on the face of gao Gong.
Mistake # 2: Asking simple questions too often
Can through the search engine query to the answer as far as possible do not ask others, now a lot of online information, unlike a few years ago the lack of information in the era, through the search engine basic can query the answer, especially technical problems.
One is that asking others often tends to produce dependence, if no one helps you solve the problem, you will eventually be unable to solve the problem yourself, and it will become useless after a long time.
Have to work for a long time you will find that ask others questions are, the somebody else to help you is to help you not be duty, I also am from beginners, I understand now I solved the problem of others I must repay you, could you please send a red envelope, red envelopes full of cash directly the amount is not much, is a kind of sincerity and let others know, you helped me, I will remember, colleagues may not send red envelopes, But it’s always ok to buy something to eat, and someone else will be more willing to help you out next time.
3. Interrupting
When others are performing, they must wait for the other person to finish. You may know your own problem as soon as you hear a sentence, and then you say, “I understand,” and then you turn around and walk away without even saying thank you. Don’t think it’s rare. I’ve seen it so many times.
Maybe you were in a hurry to test your own answer and went back to verify it, but the person who answered it probably didn’t want to answer your question next time.
If you interrupt others again, you will miss more knowledge. The following description may have more risks to pay attention to. I was going to tell you all about it, but you stopped me.
4. You like trying to convince people
The main performance is self-centered, only their own thinking and ideas are right, constantly trying to convince others, always think how can he think that way? We have to talk to him again.
As big world, everyone has a different life, different experiences, different careers, love is not the same two people together to chat, can in a meal of the time to seriously listen to each other, this is the basic respect, if you can chat with each other for two hours or one afternoon, this is a kind of self-cultivation, to see around.
I’ve written a little bit about questions and communication, and the next time someone asks a question in the wrong way, I’ll just throw it at him.
Communication really is too important to note, and man, I also in growing, I don’t speak before, especially not nervous on stage, logic confusion, completely don’t know what they are talking, I still love, once interrupted the leadership speech, think of still very embarrassed, now there are too many, many times think of yesterday said there are many places can be improved, But we must have such awareness, and constantly exercise their ability to express.
Communication ability can be said to be a kind of soft power, hard power determines your starting point, and soft power determines how far you can go, share with everyone, progress together!
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