30 years old. Is it too late to start working hard?
This reminds me of the closing words of African economics woman Dambisa Moyo’s Book Dead Aid:
The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second-best time is now.
“The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the second is now”, inspired us not to be bound by age and time, the circle, rather than retreat webs, instead of lamenting and sighing, as now began to act.
There are also jokes online, Huang Zhong sixty with Liu Bei, Tokugawa Jiakang seventy world, Jiang Ziya eighty prime minister, she tai Jun one hundred years old, Sun Wukong more than five hundred years old to take buddhist scriptures in the west, Bai Suzhen one thousand years down the mountain to fall in love, in a joking way about the late success of this truth.
That does sound reassuring. It’s never too late to start now.
To be honest, at the age of 30, the past can not be admonied, but the future can still be followed. Even if these words are false, I can only choose to believe them. Fortunately, there are some late bloomers in history, which can light up a little hope. We’ll see…
After a little blood, consider, was a late bloomer, so-called “late” is reassuring, but the premise is to become a “amplifier”, otherwise it is not called “=”, but “is too late to regret,” and become “amplifier”, although for most people, don’t need to spell talent, but also need a lot of effort, and that “effort”, Is not a slogan, a determination, a plan can achievement, if let me resolve the “hard”, I think that contains at least two directions, one is “more and more clear cognition”, is a “more and more exquisite ability”, although the two complement each other, but let me say, or “more and more clear cognition” is more important.
In our life, we have made countless resolutions and made countless plans. We always think that when things happen, we will grit our teeth and pass them by relying on our willpower. If we fail to complete them, we must be determined enough, and the final result is that we still fail again and again. The countless failures that make up today’s anxiety. But what we do or don’t do, as well as willpower itself, is methodical. Want to quit smoking, not smoke made endure a endure can solve, want to get up early, not the day before going to bed early can solve, anxiety, not transfer attention can solve, temper, not when he’s angry can solve tried not to say, social cow force, not learn a few jorge posada techniques can solve, the cause of its own happens, regularity and solution, But we can always blindly believe in yourself, believe in yourself willpower, thought can bullet to solve anything, blindly believe in your ability, also think that to learn a few techniques can solve, refused to take the time to thoroughly, to study its underlying rule, starting from the bottom, combined with their own situation, grope for trying to solve, the end result is failure. Of course, the underlying law of human behavior extends to a very large content, but it is because of its huge, complex and tedious content that the gap between people is created, and these are also things that you refuse to do, and adults can not achieve.
Mastering the underlying laws of things can help us complete things better, which is an intuitive benefit brought by “clear cognition”, but I also want to talk about some non-intuitive benefits, such as “what kind of person do I want to be? Although everyone has different interests and ideals, I think at least this person should have peace of mind, firm eyes and light in his eyes when he wants to be the person he wants to be. You may be thinking, human beings are emotional animals, how can they stay the same all the time? Indeed, people really can not stay on the same emotional state, but people can, in knowing that you will lose, still obliged to do, in the face of choice, still can choose hard but the right way, when tired, still can bullet and persistence, in the sad down, still can wipe tears heart into light, And it’s not a matter of willpower, it’s a matter of believing in the world, in the goodness of god, in the glory of humanity, in the cycle of cause and effect, that you can do a little bit more, and it’s the accumulation of that little bit of change that eventually leads to qualitative change.
Do you believe that god rewards those who work hard and human nature is glorious? I think you believe that, of course, after all, this is the education we have received, but is genuinely believe, so in the face of suffering, still can make the same choice, is to see you of these things, to a deep level of understanding, and I think that this kind of deep level, could be attained only by thinking alone, and cause you to think, is one of two ways: Traveling thousands of miles and reading thousands of books, in short, is practice and reading. So if you just go through your day as usual, without fidgeting, without trying, without reading, without thinking, your day is just repeating itself.
What I’m trying to say about cognition is that technology itself is not going to change you. Read less reference books, read more books on humanities and social sciences outside of technology, engage in things you’re interested in, connect with other people, and that really makes a difference.
Then something about “more and more exquisite ability”, “ability” here is a kind of comprehensive collectively, rather than a single refers to a kind of ability, for the front, just start to work, ability may refers to its technical implementation, as work more and more long, ability is more contains the analysis problem, problem-solving ability, communication ability, architecture, etc.
Programmers often have anxiety at the age of 35, which is the essence of the mismatch between ability and age. If it is a basic development post, age is indeed a disadvantage, but if it is a technical expert post, being too young is a disadvantage, so the ability required by a high-level position must take time to accumulate to hone out. In the passage of time, for we should be able to request also constantly change, this is the passive side, and for our personal ability is the fundamental of living, is the way of self value realization, along with the growth of the ability to you, you can solve the problem is becoming more and more big, you can create the corresponding value will be bigger and bigger, Eventually you will find a place in that value.
After two directions of effort, let’s talk about “success” in “Late bloomer”. What is “success”? It’s like asking, what does success look like? The answer, too, is obvious, and varies from person to person.
Through the era of the war of resistance, we will not be like Paul Korchagin as convinced that life should be dedicated to the cause of the liberation of all mankind, and then in this era of material abundance, we are more to highlight the self, we think that people’s life only once, the most important is the journey itself. Based on definition of success, is no longer in the traditional sense of success, if won the secular vision and to praise, the heart is dead, can’t say it’s a kind of success, if choose a road, can not regret his choice, can enjoy today’s happiness, can be full of hope for the future, this is not successful, is also in the way of success. Live the life you want in your heart, but this life is not a daydream. Everyone has a life that they see in their heart and feel they can reach. That life is the life you want. Maybe the goal of some people is to support their family, buy a house and a car. Seriously, if you have a car and a house, a wife and children, isn’t that a winner in life? But I’m afraid that compared with other people, we don’t get what others get until we’re 35. Fortunately, when we’re 35, we can accept this reality.
But we must have heart, always feel to do something in life, we are not like Steve jobs, “to live is to change the world”, but also feel really want to do something, to prove the value of yourself, this no problem, this is human nature, desire to be in a group to belong, and want to be unique, to be remembered to others, So we still have to do something.
So what are we going to do? Who knows what you want to do? I just want to tell you, just accept yourself for who you are and who you are. As for what kind of degree you can achieve, it depends on The Times, opportunities, nobles and so on, but the method is carried away, only among them, toss is better than no toss so a little.
So much, in fact, I want to talk about the Tao, the magic device, the Tao and the enlightenment, the Dharma and the establishment of this, then talk about the Dharma.
Everyone wants to get promoted and paid more, but there are only so many positions in the company, and most of them can’t get what they want, or can’t reach the height they want. Therefore, for most programmers, they have to face some choices at the age of 30, such as entering the management level, starting a business, changing industries, and continuing coding. If such questions are raised, most of them are sandwiched between management and technology. In terms of management, my ability is still a little bit poor, and in terms of technology, I haven’t opened a big gap with young students. If there really is no interest, completely is for the sake of a wages, and inductive interested in other industries, changed nothing bad, entrepreneurship depends on individual ability and opportunity, and most people will still in coding, although there are some news about 35 out problem, but in fact the front end of the formal career also does not have in the past many years, Now is the most front students to enter the age of 30, in terms of my observation, most of the 30 people are still in the line coding, compared with a classmate just work, while technical knowledge on the same, even slightly worse than just work, but on the analysis of the depth of the problem, see a problem, inventory planning, the ability to communicate with people, And the methodology formed by past experience, all of which are worth learning for new students. Although these are difficult to be identified as technical knowledge, they do exist and influence the actual development of projects. At the age of 30, technology is not the only issue, and it is no longer the ability to do projects independently. What is more important is the ability to analyze problems, solve problems, and see things that depend on experience. Of course, the group of recent graduates may not realize it yet, but they don’t need to be taught that they are slowly realizing it.
Say so many, if you just decided to make the front 30 years old, I advise you not to do, if you always do the front did not make any tricks, I hope that you believe, so many years of experience, the technical knowledge, you must still have some of the accumulation, you have to do, is outside the solid technical foundation, according to their own business, for a good direction, Then keep digging, be curious about new technologies, keep learning about industry practices, play around with your own technology, share your own technology, and gradually, when you look back, you will be recognized as a god.
To set goals, do people often say, planning, and steadfast to the direction, but I think, before doing these so-called “real thing”, in fact, there are a lot of preparation work to do, a lot of things even if no target, still can go forward, there is a direction, interested in and good at, interesting, valuable, will do, to do, do do, You think about it, and then you get a new direction, and then you get more stuff, and then you get a goal, and then you can make a plan, and you can go in that direction, and when do you get a goal? Seriously, when you’ve determined your goals through constant tossing and reflection, when you’ve determined your mind, that’s it. Most of the goals we set, the biggest problem is that we rationally think this is the best target for us, but emotionally, we don’t believe in this direction, or the heart still have resist, so whether it is not age of 30, at what age, before find a direction we believe in, we are all need to constantly practice and thinking, “What am I? “What do I have the most fun doing?” “Why am I happy?” “What do I want to be?” “What do I want to do?” All these need to be reflected and improved in continuous practice. So, even if you don’t have goals, start doing them. Important goals should be clear in practice, not fixed in mind.
At 30 years old, in fact, life have gone one third, of course, one third of a good, I think most people could live less than 90 years old, after all, life expectancy in China is only 71 years old, programmers this group because there is no how many people die, so also cannot expect this career life expectancy, But in the moment of the environment, should also not so high, according to a 71 – year – old, in fact, life has been 42%, 20%, after considering the is 57 years old at the beginning, you have nothing too much energy and physical strength, up go out to travel, attend a little stimulation activities to check id, such a thought, Life would be in the middle of the thirty years of seeing, and this time, had to take care of elders, raising four feet swallow gold beast, to think of it, is the front half of the life experience, but left to their own time do not, although the 30 years is full of countless passive things to occupy your time, and in the face of it, I only want to share with you:
For a long time, it looked like my life was about to begin. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business to be gotten through, there didn’t seem to be enough time, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. It finally dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.
So much talk, it seems that there is still nothing to be said, but for my 30-year-old self, the actual plan is not so important as the peace of mind, so my thoughts on this question are for others, but also for myself.
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