How does a programmer get a girlfriend?

The development of the Internet supports a group of people called “programmers”; As a “three high” industry (high IQ, high income and high intensity), programmers often seem to be labeled with adjectives such as overtime, high IQ but low EQ, no girlfriend, and sudden death, among which “no girlfriend” is the most easy to make fun of.

Are most programmers “doomed to live alone”? Small devil himself is also a novice programmer who has just started, feel that in fact, when programmers are also very enjoy things, can access to many lofty technology. At the same time small demon thinks, reasonable use lofty IT technology and application, not only can learn to increase programming skill, still can help hold up a girlfriend! Why do you say that? Because that’s how the little devil got here. Next small demon with own experience to talk about it!

Do everything you can, sincerely, to improve your physical appearance

Although I learned in school that “inner beauty is more important than outer beauty”, this does not mean that “outer beauty” — external image is not important! Because most of the initial knowledge about a person is based on external impressions.

Maybe at this time someone complained: I did not inherit good genes, grow ugly, have a lot of acne, can not dress. Yes, it’s important to know that these are all factors that can affect your appearance, so the next step is not complaining! It’s about really making a difference! (In fact, the scariest part is not knowing which body image needs fixing……) .

Demon thinks he’s not handsome, to be honest.

In fact, handsome is not handsome is not the key, for boys, clean, sunny personality, confident nature is crucial.

On cleanliness: Beard (if not trim), no long nose hair, stain-free clothes, odor-free body smell (try wearing perfume or showering regularly, like twice a day or two), going to bed early, getting up early and exercising can reduce acne and dandruff.

About the sun: the hair is best not to keep long hair, unless you want to go artist style, you can try to perm the hair but do not dye too bright or colorful, and the most important thing is the hair style, the best to find a hair stylist barber shop, with the hair stylist explain, ask him to design a face type hair style; Clothes is more difficult to choose and explain the relationship between them to wear, so small magic has a shortcut, go to Taobao or jingdong these large online stores, observe the model above what is corresponding to their own body, and then you can place an order; If you are short or have short legs, you can wear long slacks and (high) canvas shoes, then roll up the trouser legs to expose the white ankles, while keeping socks as short as possible so that they are tucked inside the shoes and not visible to make the whole look taller.

About confident nature: this is a very difficult training, small magic about two months to slowly practice the habit, the first thing to do regular exercise, in order to maintain a good natural walking and sitting posture, but also naturally show the temperament of youthful vitality; Need to do not nervous, natural talk, not obscene to look around, so it is best to communicate with strangers, for example, and store owners talk more; The correction method of the body movement when talking can be practiced in front of the mirror and observed to correct what is not natural enough.

Of course, external image not only includes people’s body, but also is related to environmental and material factors in contact with individuals, such as wechat moments.

This plays a significant role in subsequent steps; After the small magic of their circle of friends test, most of the non-programmers wechat friends will not pay too much attention to the small magic hair information about programmers. The reason is that they don’t understand the technical information of mysql, and they don’t want to understand it and click on it. Therefore, the circle of friends that can be seen by all people had better only post information related to life interest, such as food, movies, music, travel, constellation, variety shows and other public interests and have high value, while the information of programmers is set to be visible in groups and then posted. In this way, strangers would see him as a man who understands life and has fun, not a man who studies his own pleasures all day long!

Perhaps someone said, no time, no money, so small devil can only say, or this is not a real programmer, or not suitable for programmers!

The biggest advantage of a programmer is that he can fix bugs. If he finds a BUG, he should focus on fixing it.

Don’t complain! Don’t complain! Don’t complain! Say important things three times!

NO.2: Talk up your resources

Chatting up men and women quickly helps us build targeted relationships; In fact, many programmers also know that the root cause of no girlfriend is that there are too few girls around. But chat up just can solve this problem, at the same time, chat up is also a learning skills, chat up can also exercise the ability to express and react on the spot, when there is enough experience, it becomes the so-called “routine”, just like the programmer this line to do the interview routine.

One of the most important steps in a pickup line is not being afraid to say the first thing.

A lot of people are because of this step and retreat, the small devil deep experience, the beginning of the small devil is also like this, but at this time to take the first step, and said to himself: “how can men say no?” . Small magic said the first successful example of accosted it:

Internship if they are returning to work, one day in the subway saw a sister, very move, because she is very beautiful very have temperament, want to go to strike up a conversation but afraid to be refused again, (small magic think this kind of situation is that most people should have met, this is because feel unequal value point of view, so NO. 1 step to build at least confident mentality). However, after the training of Step 1 and the water bottle on the hand of the little devil at that time, after overcoming various psychological struggles (in fact, the heart seemed to run 400 meters at that time), I finally plucked up the courage to talk to her: “Hi, hello! (She turns to look at the little devil) Well, I’m a member of the magic club of XX school. I’m going to take part in a close-up magic competition recently, but it’s my first time to take part in the competition, so I’m a little nervous. Then the president told me to go outside and find a nice girl (she smiled, because I was praising her) and interact with her, that is, perform a magic trick for her, and then ease the tension. Then I looked for a long time, think you can help me complete the magic show (look at her) “at this time the girl was attracted by the magic of the little devil said, because the general people are very curious about magic, with the little devil completed the” hand suction water bottle “magic. (About this little magic is a little complicated, if there are more friends concerned and like it, small magic will be written in the next guide article issued)

The whole process is very smooth and not difficult, but most people are stuck on the first step — building up the courage and confidence to say the first sentence, because after the first sentence, it’s natural to move on to the topic that interests the target. After the trick, both sides were more trusting of each other, which is the normal communication of personal information, a bit like meeting a friend for a long time. And finally in about to separate, this is to micro signal moment, small magic quickly ended on a topic, said to her: “time is so fast, I’m going to get off, you seem to like magic, not so good, we add wechat friends, if fate, later to meet you, and then show you! Don’t worry, I know you’re not a bad person.” Then she smiled and added the mobile phone to my micro channel, small magic chat up also successfully completed!

Conclusion: the point is not to learn the magic first, but to create a good external image, do not frighten the girl, at the same time at least to develop a public value of interest, a deep understanding and use of it, it is best to be able to be used as a cause of interest in the topic of communication. The next is the association method, the interest you know and the target to chat up a common association to form a topic to attract, the common character in the example of small magic chat up is the girl’s temperament, this step is best to prepare several topics in advance, so that you can use it freely in many scenes.

Recommended interests: constellation, magic, photography, music creation, poetry creation, food, movies, jokes and so on.

In short, the pick-up line is to say the first thing you want to say, start the conversation, exchange personal information, and leave.

There are other ways to meet more girls than just hitting on them in the real world. For example, the use of network resources – tantan, P1 and other city social software are good choices. Due to the mechanism of making use of the mutual approval of both parties to chat with each other, both parties can be largely screened out satisfactory results, that is, “you like her, she may also like you”, you can also try.

In any case, always be a friend, not a girlfriend. Even if others refuse, it is only human nature, should be polite back to people.

No.3: Accumulate conversation topics, read and read as much as possible; When you can’t think of a joke, you can use sophisticated IT technology to help

Chatting includes online chatting and face-to-face chatting, and the two are quite different. In a normal face-to-face conversation, words convey only 7% of the information, with the rest coming from body language and tone of voice. Online conversation is almost 100% written and can only be started online because it is impossible to ask “Do you want to date?” This is why online chatting is crucial.

Here I mainly talk about the network chat, generally wechat or QQ is more, so if you want to let strangers and oneself can start the chat mode, it needs to have something of high value to attract each other. The reason is simple, assuming change my character, suddenly a stranger want to chat with yourself, then oneself also because the consciousness of “social security” to the basic information of the first to get to know each other, on the WeChat, want to know the state of a stranger, most is through the head, signature, nickname, circle of friends to roughly the judgment, the content of the There is a saying that “you can tell how many books you have read by what you say”.

Therefore, the “circle of friends” in step 2 is very important (after all, it took little Magic two months to develop it). This is not to ask people to cheat, but to improve it sincerely and gradually develop a good living habit, killing two birds with one stone. As for what to talk about with her, this is a very large category, and also divided into different periods, not a few words can be explained. But the idea is:

Try to talk about topics related to girls. The topics she likes and follows can be started from her circle of friends. But do not “dig grave”, that is, do not turn over long records, very scary. You can also talk about what you are good at, what you are interested in, and what has public value. For example, the little devil likes to talk about magic, and some literary fans like poetry, photography, music and so on. But if the topic is wrong, it’s time to move on.

Online chat stage 1 is mainly about information exchange, it is best to use topics to dig out relevant information, and use a humorous way to express, more declarative sentences, less questions, because questions are like checking accounts. Many programmers said that they could not communicate humor to the sister, small magic also feel difficult at the beginning, but as long as you really want to change, it is not difficult. In fact, small magic later found that humor chat routines a bit like an interview, more, routines formed, is the so-called accumulation of heavy. Next, take the mindset of talking with a good friend (not the content) and the mindset of talking with a girl and start the conversation with a joke. In the past, he also felt that humorous jokes were scarce, so he used what he had learned to write python scripts and crawlers to generate his own joke library, and then the Django framework made a small customized version of the website, which can search for humorous jokes on the topic you need by keyword. So the small demon thinks if IT technology can make good use of, perhaps can chat to a sister.

Stage 1 is for basic information exchange, so please don’t make it dangerously ambiguous.

Stage 2 is the real flirtation phase, because stage 2 is a little more “dirty”, but it’s best not to use this trick on serious girls, it’s still easy to get angry. Little devil here to sum up:

Ambiguity comes from seeming to acknowledge a relationship without seeming to acknowledge it through the “push and pull” speaking technique. “Push” means distance from her vision, dislike her; “Pull” means to pull into the distance with her, said like her, so that she has a mood change, this process, commonly known as “flirt younger sister”.

In order for this whole process to be successfully completed, the moments display needs to reflect some value and be attractive, and both parties have a good understanding of each other’s personality.

Online chat stage 3 is more challenging: invite out alone, get up close and personal. This stage has a high failure rate because it is so close to the intention. If the first step gives a girl enough sense of security that she already knows who she is, she will go out on a date. Of course, sometimes when inviting about, some girls may have something delayed, or some feel or improper excuse for something, thus refused, that as a gentleman should be magnanimous more invited a few times. At this time will also appear some wonderful forever reject, that can only show, is not always a passer-by, strong twist melon will not sweet.

Then the opportunity to go out with Happy alone will generally be great, but it is not the first time to show love. Personally, though, there’s something to be done – if the first face-to-face meeting goes well, it’s best to try holding hands. Otherwise, the girl you like might slip away. Don’t ask the devil why, the devil just want to quietly ToT.

As for the timing and reason of holding hands, if the girl is very happy to communicate with you, with the experience of small magic, you can choose the following scene to try: Cross the road, in order to protect her, or palm reading, watching the fate and the chance to praise her, or performing higher-order “ring tomorrow” magic, and so on physical contact scenario (the magic is not the on baidu, is his magic on the original “ring tomorrow” of the development of two upgrades, this magic after skilled, the probability of more than 90% can lead to the girl’s hand, Of course, it is not always holding, after completing the “scene task” to casually let go, the small devil will not say that the mood will feel wonderful in this situation.

Of course, the first face-to-face chat may not be very smooth, may not perform well for a variety of reasons, so in the next invitation to try to avoid. Try to be as good as you can on the first date, or your chances of getting a second date are low. If you can successfully hold hands for the first time, you can hold hands again for other reasons in the next date. In fact, if the girl is willing to pass the first date, she will not resist the next date.

The confession is a ritual, but it is necessary and the timing should be right

Next, someone may ask, when do I confess my love?

A confession is actually an announcement ceremony that doesn’t necessarily involve 99 roses and heart-shaped candle rings, as is well known; Of course, some romantic girls may be more concerned about it, that as a programmer, that money is also a small case, isn’t it? And you’d better bring your friends and family! What’s more, after a couple of dates, the two of them knew that they were actually seeing each other as a couple. Because if holding hands so many times isn’t a relationship, then the devil doesn’t know what is. But also can’t hang not to say, as time goes by, she will be very insecure, so find a good opportunity to euphemistic expression, such as in her understanding of IT technology based on the workflow, looking at her seriously say:

“XXX, I have a project I want to talk to you about.” “What project?” “I want to fall in love with you, be my girlfriend!”

NO. 5

And, of course, he found himself with a girlfriend. In this process, small magic discovery is not only harvest his girlfriend, and develop a good and positive life habits, learned a lot of humorous communication skills and know more contacts. Finding someone to love is a lifelong task, so happiness requires genuine effort, no matter how difficult, rather than posturing. Above is the content that small demon wants to share, pure individual opinion of the next personal experience.

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