At the beginning, I also had two periods of long-term overtime, which led to a significant deterioration in my health, a decrease in work efficiency, and being pressed by the company, so that I doubted my life experience. I believe that you have similar experience more or less, please listen to me patiently.

My first experience was that I worked in a small team the year I graduated. I worked from midnight to 1:00 every night for 8 months and went to work the next day. I stayed up every night until my heart ached, my back ached, my kidneys ached, and my brain was confused. It was very late when I got home. I almost fell asleep immediately without my own living space. Sometimes I would check my phone before going to sleep. Still get up early to catch the subway in the morning the following day, more than an hour commuting time, basic it is standing and walking, has stuck to the company, and then back in the case of low efficiency work, physical strength has cost a lot, even during the day, feel very depressed, it was not long before, obviously feel the body quality drop quickly, on the third floor began to breathe heavily. Now think is really not worth, at the beginning of their own why so silly so spell.

The second experience was in my second company. At that time, the company implemented the project reward system, which called on employees to take the initiative to act as project leaders, and they would be rewarded with bonuses and opportunities for promotion and salary increase. I actively participated in it and took charge of several projects, and finally achieved good results. Therefore, I was selected as an excellent employee and the company gave me a raise. I was also very happy and decided to continue to work for the company. But a month later, one project went a little wrong, and I got an AVERAGE performance (actually, a passing grade), which is not bad. My boss took the opportunity to fire me and told me to pack up and leave immediately at 5pm that day. At that time, I was completely confused, because I am such a good employee, and I was so emotionally devastated that I didn’t know what to do. At that time, several colleagues complained for me. The company made several vague excuses and sent an email to all staff in an attempt to gag me and others. HR and CEO came to me separately one after another, and tried to put me off by offering me February’s salary (actually much more than that) as compensation, telling me to leave immediately. They also hinted and warned me not to make trouble, because the HR of the company was too sophisticated to fight them. I wavered and said yes. I decided to ask for a reasonable compensation according to the labor law. I added a lawyer’s wechat account and spread the news that I would fight a lawsuit among my colleagues. Then I sent a direct message to the biggest boss, listing my objections to the disposal of these, piling on the arguments. On the same day, he asked me to come to the office to chat for half an hour and finally agreed to my request. I also chose to leave with all the compensation to change jobs.

I worked for this company for three years, and was one of the first members of the company when it was founded. After a few years of development, the company’s staff size increased by five times. During that time, I really did my best for my work, but I didn’t expect to be kicked out by the company in the end. Now think is really thinking at the time, then work hard figure what, at the cost of her own life and a lot of spare time, give the body burned down the whole body, then go to a hospital checking a bunch of questions, are working overtime to stay up late overworked, several organ function is abnormal, have never thought of is turned against the company’s relentless. From then on, I recuperate for a month, to understand some truth, away from the blood tank factory, change the thinking, change the mentality, deliberately set aside time to give myself control, improve myself, my body is my own, life is my own. Life is good, there’s no need to rush into work, get stuck in a cycle, lose balance, and have endless negative effects.

Take this opportunity to also suggest that you will encounter similar things in the future, we must protect themselves, the interests of the fight for a cent can not be less. At the same time, also can learn more labor arbitration, this thing is biased to protect workers, the key time is also useful, in addition also does not rule out asking a lawyer to help the lawsuit (find a professional to do professional things), you are weak he is strong, you are strong he is weak. The world is not black and white. There are plenty of gray areas that can be used to our advantage. Barefoot not afraid to wear shoes, do not hesitate, dry over!

Let’s get down to the question of how to make correct changes and choices and effectively solve problems in a workplace culture of working overtime, workplace PUA, 996, and even 007.

Why is work and life out of balance?

  • The workload is too heavy to be completed without overtime

    • Leadership and company reasons

      • The supervisor always assigned more work than the employee could normally handle

      • Leaders do not understand the specific details of the work and overestimate the ability of employees for granted

      • Companies use performance appraisal and pay as an excuse to indirectly or directly threaten employees

      • The leader is eager for quick success and instant benefits, and wants to take credit in front of the boss to squeeze the employees at the bottom

      • The whole company advocates striving overtime culture, long-term high pressure and fast pace

      • The boss habitually squeezed his employees

    • (Assuming the workload is reasonable)

      1. Low work efficiency, do things slower than others

      2. You overestimate your ability to do more work than you actually do

      3. Lack of focus and being interrupted by others when working

      4. There’s always an emergency to deal with, or an emergency meeting to attend

      5. Continuous work for a long time, the body can not rest, the efficiency of natural decline

      6. There is no time to deal with emergencies and rest, resulting in an unreasonable schedule

      7. For the unreasonable work arrangement of leaders, dare not put forward reasonable opinions, silently endure

      8. Staying up late the night before leads to lethargy during the day and plummeting productivity

      9. Chat wechat read email control is not reasonable, easy to be distracted for a long time to come back, in addition to delay time

      10. Have intermittent brush paragraph, read news brush micro blog habit

    • Urgent tasks and emergencies

      1. The leader suddenly assigned an urgent task

      2. Colleagues come to you for help, questions, etc

      3. I was called to a meeting at short notice

The relationship between work and life

  • Work is for a better life. Don’t reverse the order

  • Work is only a part of life, the proportion should not be too high

  • Good or bad work, will directly affect the quality of life

  • Good or bad life, in turn, will affect work efficiency

  • They complement and balance each other to the best of their ability

How to balance work life

The essence of balance is to work fast and live slow.

Fast work

  • When it’s time to work, work carefully and focus on the work, less or no wechat and Douyin

  • Focus on your own pace, increase efficiency, and get things done as quickly as possible

  • If you can’t do two things at once, do one thing well at a time and finish the second

  • Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today. Don’t put off until evening or the next day, or even the weekend

  • Exercise your self-drive, be proactive to work and put important things first

  • Rational use of pomodoro technique, work and rest, improve efficiency

  • Arrive early in the morning and get into work early, naturally faster than others

  • Try to isolate yourself from your life and focus on your current work

  • Be results-oriented, done is more important than perfect, don’t get botheredin ‘

Slow life

  • Life time as far as possible and work to achieve relative isolation, focus on enjoying the good life

  • Connect with family and friends to foster emotional connections and connect yourself with the world

  • Get out and see the vastness of nature and the fragrance of flowers and birds

  • Learn to enjoy immersing yourself in cooking or cleaning up your home and slow down

The final summary

Work-life balance is essentially the art of role switching.

In conclusion, there is no absolute balance, and it is indeed difficult to balance the two. But we can achieve a relative balance, but it is not easy to do this step, to ensure that most of our needs. It’s like a circus clown walking on a tightrope, staggering to the finish line, occasionally losing his balance, but always quickly adjusting back, moving on towards his goal, and finally reaching the finish line. Achieving work-life balance doesn’t happen overnight. It takes a few small changes, and over time you’ll find yourself transformed.

True balance, in fact, is constantly looking for balance.

Finally, I wish everyone a satisfactory job, a good Life and Work Life Balance.