Today, I had a conversation that lifted my spirits:

“I’m so lost.”

“Blah blah blah, not confused.”

“Are you clear about your future?”

…

“You’re 27, you’re 30 in a few years. When are you thinking about getting married? When are you thinking about buying a house?”

In the middle of this query, I was reminded of something that I had recently encountered, something that made me feel anxious and hungry.

So, you talk about this I don’t feel sleepy!

Take the weekend, take the time, lunch do not eat quickly record, let’s talk about work, life encountered some anxiety, I am how to deal with.

Hopefully, this article will give you a better understanding of the anxiety of a “social bull” “Curly King” and how he deals with it, so as to solve his own anxiety.

Note: Everyone has his or her own way of dealing with anxiety. If some of my ways of dealing with anxiety do not accord with your personal idea, welcome to make fun of it and give advice

First, anxiety status quo

Jsliang has been working as an errand boy since 2017 and engaged in front-end development since 2018. It has been nearly 4 years.

It is hard to imagine that a young man who worked for his boss and made money for him for four years still has so much energy to do things.

  • Write articles and post them on public accounts and major community platforms
  • Record knowledge videos and travel vlogs
  • …

Some people emo when they see this sentence, aren’t you selling anxiety again, to highlight my inaction?

In fact, it is not true. Friends who are familiar with me still stay up late to read novels, and see me in games like King of Glory and Red Alert. That “reading novels and playing games is not for making money, garbage front-end development” is still me ~

In fact, I started the week with a surge of stress and anxiety:

  1. There is a module at work, because it is midway intervention, so I am not very familiar with a lot of content, but the big leader looked at, you can not put rotten
  2. In life, I get stuck doing game development, video, travel VLog, etc., but I really want to do it, but I don’t have time to do it, so I become obsessed with it

Then, today encountered the beginning of the dialogue, a little nervous, or to list these contents, how I consider, how to deal with.

Two, work anxiety

In a previous post on Zhaohuaxishi, I recorded what I might encounter at work in 2022:

  • Github.com/LiangJunron…

Then, this week, I finally came across: how to actively deal with an issue given by the leader

Many times, you might be faced with a situation like this:

  1. You didn’t follow this project from the start. You step in, but you follow up
  2. There’s a bit of a mix of people involved in this project. This project foundation is handled by group A, processing is handled by Group B, and Group C wants to access this project
  3. You also need to take care of routine requirements and Bug fixes
  4. …

You might be anxious: consult group A, and group A says they don’t care; Check with team B. Team B says check with team A.

This is a situation that you can’t mess up because it’s been assigned to you and you have to deal with it. Adult report don’t talk about the process, talk about the results.

So after the initial confusion and anxiety, I forced myself to be a “social monster” : I went through their chat records one by one, and then briefly sorted them out. I followed up with Group C and asked them about their current problems, and then asked group A/B for their thoughts and suggestions on how to deal with these problems. I tried to reproduce and solve the problems myself, and finally sorted these processes into A document, and planned to report the progress and follow up next week.

Although, as you can see above, it doesn’t seem to be very complicated. But, because you see the result, it’s the “processed” content.

“A lot of people say you’re a social nerd, so you should be able to handle that pretty well.”

“But it’s going to work out. Now that I’ve taken over, I’m going to take care of it. Even if I fail, I’m going to say I tried my best.”

That’s what other people say and what I think!

In the process, I felt like I had a thicker skin than I thought, and sometimes I even wanted to slap myself for saying things that were all right at the time but looked stupid in hindsight.

“I want to come home from work and do whatever I want, but sometimes I want to do everything right, rather than shrink into the sand when things go wrong.”

In the process of dealing with work anxiety, I was very grateful to the leader of the front end after changing the group, because he really listened to my ideas in detail on every line of the text and explained his suggestions on the rank and work arrangement to me in the face of a big question I raised

When dealing with anxiety at work/career, we can learn from the following practices:

  • Want to understand these after I no longer anxiety | selling anxiety, creep away 】 www.bilibili.com/video/BV19i…

In combination with the video 03-18 “Drink water when you are not happy”, you can make fun of your own experience and ideas, as well as the process and results of solving the problem.

Three, life anxiety

What anxieties do I encounter in my life?

  • Can I still do my game development
  • My travel plans are still affected by the pandemic
  • The output quality of my articles is not very satisfactory
  • …

Everyone has their own fun preferences, relatively speaking, my fun preferences is to organize knowledge, output articles.

So instead of learning technology and improving myself all the time, I also write about miscellaneous things like:

  • Guangdong – 011 – | | Beijing road of guangzhou sand nine up and down
  • Dream Series – 2022-02-16 – Fate dreams
  • Dream Series – 2022-02-16 – Adapted

What? You tell me about metasexes, microfronts, source code profiling?

Ah rightness rightness, but can encounter not necessarily in my job and life, am I studying now turn head to go up useless forget, study ahead of schedule can be used when the time comes?

I’m not saying it doesn’t matter, but everyone has their own experiences and opinions, and just because someone tells you something doesn’t mean that everyone should do it.

We have our own plan and the team’s plan, but no one else’s plan.

If you have a feeling after watching someone else’s promotion:

New content, new upgrade, to create the top front-end architecture class in China! Course cow not cow, learn the heaviest if increase salary 💴 otherwise everything is empty check!!Copy the code
Important notice: specialized undergraduate course network teaches the school quota to be tense to sign up now, exempt from examination enter a school, need not line examination, the fastest next month can check to learn letter network to read school status, do you still need?Copy the code

Do you have anxiety in this area? Would you like to write this point down and see how to deal with it? Instead of just signing up for classes that make sense?

Anyway, how do I deal with the things in my life that I encountered above?

  • Article: The problems encountered in the work, learning, desensitization into a learning series of articles (namely 6 Docker series articles)
  • Video: According to the article, to make relevant video, do the article and video synchronization
  • Travel: Take it easy and hope the epidemic will soon pass
  • …

Four, summary

Encounter problems, think about problems, solve problems.

Most of the time we do not want to face, even want to break, because it may tear your idea, tear your ability to bear.

But we’re going to have to deal with it, and this is not going to work, and that’s not going to work, so what else can you do?

Be optimistic and make sure you “can eat, sleep and laugh” every day

Do not toss the front end, and what is the difference between salted fish!

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If you need to contact jsliang:

  • Github
  • The Denver nuggets

Personal contact information stored in Github home page, welcome to toss ~

Strive to become a lifelong learning slash programmer who is eager to explore, play around, and expand his knowledge.

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