Internet a mid-life crisis, in the past two years have been fired, what 35-year-old programmer to delivery, 35, a product manager to open drops, and so on, to get 30 + this group very anxiety, and even began to spread, quickly turned 30, only three or four years, master graduates also began to anxiety, would have to “graduation that year, We are collectively unemployed.”

Here are a few real cases around me. They are generally Internet people who were born in 81 or 82 and have no more than 40 years of age. Or they used to be Internet people and how they deal with the midlife crisis. They are not the famous and expensive entrepreneurs of listed companies and executives of large factories, because I don’t want to talk about success and chicken soup, and such cases are of limited practical reference to us. They are just common and diligent people around us, who crowded the subway together and ate rice covered with rice.

Case 1: Never forget, there will be echoes

Mr. L and I were colleagues of my former company (an online education company). He was the front Leader and the person in charge of the company’s teaching and research platform (courseware, homework, question bank, etc.). During the period of working together, I felt that L was very honest, hardworking and possessed good leadership in the team. When carrying out requirements iteration, L was not only satisfied with the delivery of current functions, but also always thought about evolution from the perspective of universalization, platforming and productization. At that time I had a vague feeling that he was brewing and storing something, but I couldn’t quite say what it was.

Later, I left my job. In the past year or so, although L and I chatted on wechat from time to time, we didn’t have much in-depth communication. Until recently, after the policy of reducing education and training, he told me in a dinner party of “Life for his father” that he also resigned from the company and started his own business with several brothers in the company. Based on the teaching and research platform he did in the company as the core and prototype, he did PaaS and SaaS services for interactive scene production. Due to deliberately to the platform and product evolution to think, accumulated a lot of reserves, so the product incubation quickly, the effect is good quality.

There are already two big companies using their product and paying for it, and angel rounds have been raised. Since the product was incubated in the former company, the grateful Mr. L gave the former company owner some shares in his current company in return.

During the dinner, WHILE eating crayfish and roast meat (dinner is still necessary), I listened to Mr. L talk about some joy and challenges he had experienced since he started his business, his thinking and response at that time, and what he would face in the future, which might be subjected to greater tests and frustrations. Although it is only an angel, L’s eyes are shining and there is no middle-aged anxiety in the script.

On the way back, my biggest feeling was that, after all, heaven forbid a hard worker who thinks deeply at work to do badly.

Never forget, there will be echoes.

Case 2: The heart of time, will be indifferent

I work in a large electricity company, D gentleman is my technology Leader, sincere nice, comprehensive and practical technology, quickly development efficiency, but not “closed loop and pull through, alignment, the underlying logic and the top design”, willing to communicate, but not good at communication, weekly can’t more than 20 characters, general format as “1, xx development, 2, XX combined, 3, XX familiar with “, usually like hiking, camping, cycling and climbing, do not like 996.

Therefore, we come to the user portrait, a good ability, but not packaging, not good communication, in the talent scarce small factory will be better, but in the big factory like a duck to water probability is not large, especially in the new leadership, eager to so-called “old and new” situation. What’s more, 996 itself represents a “political consciousness” in the Internet company, the Internet company does not like 996 people, with mixed “Beijing circle” actors do not like Wang Shuo Feng Xiaogang.

Therefore, Mr. D soon changed to another large e-commerce company, but some of his essential things did not change, and he was still not recognized by his superiors. He had no chance to get a raise or promotion, and he was not happy at work. Sure enough, more than a year later, with the company’s r&d team’s slogan “Awesome or out,” his IM signature changed to “no awesome.”

After two painful career experiences, Mr. D’s mood and mentality were greatly affected, and he became stubborn and irritable. Sometimes when he was angry, a vein would burst out on his forehead.

A few years later, when we worked together again in an online education company, Mr. D had a girlfriend and got married. He was much more calm and could accept 996. When there were problems in his work, he would take the initiative to admit to his leaders that he was wrong, just like reconciliating with the whole world. Technically, I’m more comprehensive, and sometimes I teach myself some things about machine learning.

After the reduction of teaching and training, Mr. D left his job in an online education company and joined an artificial intelligence company, still working as an architect. He continued to work hard in the field of technology and coding and adding 996. Sometimes, he had to arrange a restaurant near his company a week in advance so that he could spare time from his busy schedule. But his mood changed for the better, and he rarely complained. In his spare time, he continued to hike, camp, ride and climb mountains.

Therefore, a fairly good ability of the person, the state of mind calm, appropriate to lower some expectations, is also enough to deal with the midlife crisis.

Case 3: A careless interloper will have a bright future

Mr. Z was the one who urged me to come to Beijing instead of working in Tianjin. After he graduated from graduate school, he came to Beijing immediately. There is a difficulty in Mr. Z’s career, that is, he has been working in outsourcing companies and small and medium-sized companies, and he does not have the experience of a large factory. This career path is slightly less risk-resistant, and once you’re older and you don’t have a big-company resume to back it up, it’s harder to find new opportunities.

However, Mr. Z is a very smart person, especially interested in The Three Kingdoms killing and script killing, and in his spare time, he often soaked in board games and script killing shops. When the job search did not go well, he simply changed his career completely and began to run a script killing shop. After a period of careful management, his store in the vicinity of Sanlitun has a good reputation, the store itself has expanded more and more.

Sometimes, we say, when a hobby becomes a career, it ruins the hobby. But often, when a person is genuinely passionate about something and puts their heart and soul into it, the results, whether it’s a career or a hobby, are not too bad.