“Live up to the time, the creation of non-stop, this article is participating in 2021 year-end summary essay competition”
Unconsciously, it has been 32 years since I graduated from graduate school in 2016 and came to a state-owned enterprise in Suzhou. I don’t have a clear career plan for myself. I still remember that when I came to this company for an interview, the interviewer asked me why I chose our company. I said that because it is a state-owned enterprise and has the nature of an Internet company, which is stable and can write code, I think I can work here for a lifetime. Now think what a terrible spell that is. Fast forward 5 years, except for the age of growth, there is no other progress.
I came to Suzhou alone in 2016
Before coming to Suzhou, the impression of Suzhou only stays in “Suzhou gardens are the best in the world”, “there is heaven on earth, there are Suzhou and Hangzhou” in these two sentences. After coming to Suzhou, I began to have money and leisure days, every weekend will go to the scenic spots in Suzhou, Lion Forest, Humble Administrator’s Garden, Lingering garden, Shantang Street, Xiyuan Temple and so on. They spend thousands of dollars each time they go to the mall. Explore delicious suzhou snacks, such as Suzhou-style noodles, fried fish, lotus root with sugar, and steamed stuffed dumplings the size of buns with sesame, peanut, red bean, and fresh meat dumplings that refresh my taste.
Suzhou has not only classical charm, but also modern urban prosperity and beautiful natural scenery. Our company is near the science and technology city near Taihu Lake, where there are large lawns, and flocks of egrets sometimes fly over the lawns, which is very spectacular. Does this look like the world of Hayao Miyazaki’s animation, where a totoro might live in the woods not far away?
Suzhou is also a flower city with flowers blooming all year round. In spring, there are winter jasmine, Chinese flowering apple, cherry blossom, azalea, gardenia, everywhere on the green belt, there are lotus, Chinese rose, sunflower and so on in summer, to autumn, Suzhou is full of fragrance, it is because osmanthus flowers bloom. In winter, there are plum blossom and camellia. And many, many flowers whose names I do not recognize.
This is the club. Before I came here, I only saw the club in the picture in the textbook.
In 2017, I became anxious and wanted to have a family
When I’m done playing alone, I want to have a family. My partner’s parents paid down and bought a house in Suzhou in half a year. The down payment for buying a house is an astronomical figure for me. Both my boyfriend and I come from rural areas and have little money. They are very poor and cannot provide any help for us to start a family. And my boyfriend is still in different places to read a PhD, I began to worry, began to feel inferior, began to doubt life, I should break up to find someone who can afford to buy a house to marry…
Start saving in 2017 and plan to buy a house
Happy for a while, should consider later, god helps those who help themselves, I began to save money. Because it is a state-owned enterprise, the take-home pay is not high. I can’t stop saving $5,000 a month. In fact, it’s an addiction to save money. I can get a $50 bonus at the end of the year. In two years, we saved less than 20 million yuan. Then my nobleman (sister) came to the rescue.
He took out a $30 loan in his own name, and I needed to pay $10 a month for 3 years, plus $10 in cash. That’s it. I had enough for the down payment.
I only have $20 to leverage $60 down payment. When you borrow money, you pay it back. At this time, my boyfriend already had a fixed income of 8000 yuan every month and I was subsidizing a little, so I could pay back the monthly installment loan. My provident fund account has 11W (the provident fund of state-owned enterprises is relatively high). After buying the house, the money can be withdrawn immediately and returned to my sister.
2018 a person to see the house, buy a house, decorate the house
The house near the company has soared to more than 2W, buy a small three houses is not affordable. Put your eyes on the place 10 kilometers away from the company. After many visits and comparison, I have a clearer and clearer idea of what kind of house I want.
- Community property: the community is very large and clean, with good greenery and many recreational facilities.
- Transportation is convenient: go out of the elevated, there is a tram station at the gate of the community, there is a subway station several hundred meters in the community, 10 kilometers away from the company, half an hour to drive to the company.
- Go to school convenient: village matched neat kindergarten, primary school and middle school, later the child goes to school pick up very convenient. It is not a very good school district, but it is certainly much better than my school in the countryside.
- Shopping convenience: there is a Rt-Mart and a vegetable market a few hundred meters away from the community. There are IKEA and Aeon 2 kilometers away from the community. Recently, kaishike was opened.
- Convenient medical treatment: 2 kilometers away from the community, there are two hospitals attached to Suzhou
Through comprehensive comparison, I chose this community and bought a second-hand rough small three-room.
There was no money in the hand after buying a room, SO I looked for the cheapest decoration company and put in 10W on and off.
Then, went to the furniture market, spent 5000, bought two beds, a sofa, a dining table and hastily filled the house.
2019 bought a small polo
I admit, I vanity, buy a house without a car which line? So I took out a 10W yuan consumer loan and bought a Polo.
So my hardware is equipped, although they are low, but it is their own.
In 2019, we got married
From the campus to the society, we have experienced many, stumbling, and finally overcome the reality. We got married. A simple wedding, said goodbye to the single era, god is caring for me, he graduated from the doctor, successfully found a very good job in Suzhou, we have their own small home, began to live their own life. Even though our little family had no startup capital and was in debt, we were doing fine.
In 2020, I became a mother
On January 31, 2020, the little one was born, and BECAUSE of him, I almost lost my life, bleeding heavily and scaring the doctors. He was ugly, I didn’t know him, and his cry was a little hoarse, not very loud. The doctor said amniotic fluid was in the lungs, possibly pneumonia. I put him in the hospital for a few days.
For the first time when my mother was a little at a loss, will not communicate with him, do not know why he inexplicable cry, busy I was exhausted. After a period of running in and out, I finally accepted his existence. When I teased him, he would babble back, one after another, and take pictures of him every day. Height and weight change within 10 days. I love him more and more, can not love enough, slowly into the role of the mother.
In 2021, go back to work
Suddenly, LOOKING back, I found that I was already more than 30 years old, and I had not made any progress in my work. All my friends who joined the company were promoted to eight posts, while I was still seven posts. Feeling like a failure at work. Often anxious, said programmers over 35 will retire, do not know how to go after the road.
I want to change the status quo, set many goals at the beginning of the year, write a patent; Pass the soft exam; Write an essay; Write a tech blog.
At the end of the year, I failed to achieve any of my goals. I wrote two patent descriptions, both of which failed. In the first half of the soft examination paper did not pass, and in the second half of the soft examination, the results have not come out. The thesis is still unfinished.
In the first half of this year, I started to write a blog on the Nuggets. Although I don’t read much, I can force myself to read and learn by writing a blog. I hope it sticks.
This is the course of my life and work since I joined the company.
Hope for the future self
- Be a confident person
- Be a good mother
- Be a good wife
- Learn how to invest money
- Read more books
- Improve skills
- Have a good work-life balance.
- Clear goals and efficiency.
- Improved cooking